Improving self-esteem can be one of the most difficult things to do in life mostly, I believe, because it is an individual thing. Not all things work the same for all people. But, I have learned some things that I want to pass on that have helped me and that I believe can help you also. So, here goes.
- Understand that you have value
You have value. There is no one else like you with the gifts and talents you possess in this world and never will be again! This is the first thing you must really internalize because it can and will influence everything else in your life and is the stepping stone for the next two secrets. I talk about this more in my book, The Wellness Mindset: 5 Keys to Building Super Health. Click HERE to check it out.
2. Invest your time in people that invest in you
I have a saying, “If I am an appetizer in your life, don’t expect to be an entrée in mine”. That is, if I am not worth your time, then you are not worth mine either. The people that you associate with can affect the way you feel about yourself. Try to concentrate most of your efforts with those that make you feel like a million bucks. You can easily identify these kinds of people because whenever you interact with them you feel ten feet tall afterwards. And you don’t even have to physically see them for this to happen. I have friends that I never see because we live so far apart but, whenever we communicate live or even via instant message, I feel like I am special to them and that my presence in their lives matters. Contrast that with people that you interact with that make you feel just the opposite; like you don’t matter either way. Now, it doesn’t always mean that they are deliberately doing this. It just means that for whatever reason, good, bad, or indifferent, you are not on their radar. The idea is to invest your time and care with those that value you as an “entrée” and deemphasize those that treat you like an “appetizer”.
3. Identify your gifts
As a unique individual, you have gifts and abilities that whether you realize it or not add value in the lives of others. And because these are second nature to you, you may not always recognize this. For instance, in my case, people have told me that words of encouragement that I have said to them in passing made a positive impact in their lives. Wow! It makes me feel amazing to know that I made someone feel good about themselves. So, I encourage you to open your eyes to the ways in which you touch others. Maybe you’re someone that bakes delicious treats that you share with others that makes their day or you have a smile that lights up the room. You get the idea. So think about it. I bet you will be surprised at the impact you truly have!I want to challenge you today to employ these three secrets and see if they don’t give your self-esteem a lift. You are so worth it!